| A drug addicted or alcoholic loved one can commit | | | | those enabling their addictions, cease and desist |
| crimes, even against their own family. Knowing | | | | immediately. Group two won't truly feel bad about |
| the difference between social and anti-social | | | | their anti-social activities and will destroy a family's |
| addiction can help you make major decisions that | | | | fortune. |
| will affect your family and yourself. Who do you | | | | - People in group two hurt everyone and will |
| help and how do you decide? I've put together | | | | continue to hurt others. The people in group two |
| the major questions and indicators you need to | | | | are the career criminals, violent offenders and |
| ask yourself to properly decide what to do about | | | | family destroyers. Help the police to get them out |
| an addicted loved one. | | | | of society so they can't harm society any further. |
| Most addicts were good people. Yet, a drug addict | | | | How can a family member see the difference |
| or alcoholic can make some pretty major | | | | between the two? Let's focus on group one and |
| mistakes. Addicts and alcoholics can cause great | | | | leave group two to the police, shall we. |
| harm and upset to those who love them. | | | | Addicted But Good |
| Sometimes a drug addict will damage others | | | | - People in group one hurt themselves and may |
| property and commit crimes. Regardless of the | | | | make mistakes. They're basically good people. |
| motive, these acts are wrong. | | | | - People caught up in addiction can commit criminal |
| When deciding what to do with an addict who has | | | | acts to pay for their addiction. They will feel |
| been harming others, dealing drugs or being | | | | considerable regret and usually cave in on |
| destructive of ones best laid plans, you have to | | | | themselves when they have to face you or their |
| consider several things. | | | | counter-survival actions. These small or large |
| Two Question Addiction Test | | | | crimes may result in their developing a |
| | | | self-worthless attitude (despised). |
| 1. Does this person want to get better? or | | | | - Sometimes one can mistake those in group one |
| 2. Do they want to do crime and are drugs | | | | with those in group two. This can cause |
| making it easier to continue? | | | | considerable upsets in someone who is addicted. |
| Addicts come in basically two varieties, when it | | | | Ex. The addicted person now feels rejected by |
| comes to criminal actions. | | | | family, worthless, like garbage, etc. simply because |
| One: those caught up in addiction and wanting to | | | | they are addicted. These people need help, not |
| get out of their self imposed trap. (Good person) | | | | further rejection. |
| Two: people seeing their destructive actions on | | | | - If the people in this group are given an honest |
| others and themselves, desire to numb | | | | opportunity to recover from this hell they are |
| themselves with drugs or alcohol so as to | | | | trapped in, they will take that opportunity. Often |
| continue to destroy. The majority of anti-social | | | | they will need a professional interventionist to |
| acts are committed by the second group. (Not | | | | assist them to get to rehab. The addict can |
| Good) | | | | mistake themselves to be in that second group |
| I'll try to work with the first group only and work | | | | as well and therefore not want to place more |
| valiantly to help get these people to rehab or | | | | burden on the family. |
| even do at-home programs. Group one really | | | | - Their main objection to rehab will be because |
| deserve your and my help. Group one are good, | | | | they feel worthless for the wrongs they have |
| but erring. Reality check -- it's going to involve | | | | done. These people need your help to get them |
| some energy and effort on your and their parts. | | | | moving toward recovery, while they have a |
| Criminal And Addicted | | | | moment of clarity. Simply, if they truly feel bad |
| - The second group actually wants your efforts | | | | about their actions, there is some hope. |
| to help them fail. They quietly smile when they | | | | If an addict's or alcoholic's actions are cold and |
| relapse. Your success in helping drug addicts or | | | | calculated, designed to hurt and harm, you're |
| alcoholics will be in distinguishing between these | | | | looking at anti-social motivations. Anti-social addicts |
| two types of people. Turn the second group over | | | | will pretend sorrow, be warned. That's group two, |
| to the police. | | | | not good. |
| - Mistaking a person in group 2 with someone in | | | | Differentiating these two types of individual |
| group one will hurt you. Group two will steal from | | | | motivations, social and anti-social, will greatly assist |
| you again and again, put you through hell and | | | | you in making a very important decision. Working |
| make you feel like it is your entire fault. Addicts in | | | | tirelessly to get a good but addicted loved one to |
| group two are the reason interventionists insist | | | | rehab will pay off if you do it right. |