Five Golden Rules for Balancing Work and Home for Couples Working Together

My husband and I have known each other for 17grocery shopping as well as cleaning and cooking
years, been happily married for over a decadewhile my husband does all the finances, car
and business partners for more than few years.maintenance and yard work. In both instances, we
Any couple working together will tell you thatwrote down all our roles to the smallest details. I
balancing this is no small feat.can't tell you how many arguments this has
We have successfully juggled these roles (mother,saved us over years.
father, husband, wife, boss, partner, etc..) withoutRule # 3: Mom is the boss at home, period
driving each other crazy by following five "goldenSomeone has to be the arbitrator; there are just
rules." I'd recommend them highly for any family,some instances where you can't reach consensus.
but especially when spouses are in businessIn those cases, Mom gets to make the call, but
together and they want to stay being happy.does so with the understanding that she's
Rule # 1: What happens at work stays at work,accountable for it.
what happens at home stays at homeRule # 4: Family is always first
One of the most important things my husbandRegardless of what goes on at work, family is
and I do is make sure that business issues stayalways first. For example, we avoid work on
at the workplace and family issues stay at home.weekends to make sure we do activities together
We might have a disagreement at home in theas a family. If weekend work must be done, it is
morning, but when we arrive at work it's likeconducted only after our son goes to bed.
nothing has happened. We'll return back to ourRule # 5: Dedicated time with kids
discussion when we get back home.While I do work a lot of hours, I take time out
Rule # 2: Establish clear job roles at home andthree days a week to pick up my son from
work.school and spend the rest of the afternoon with
When we started working together, my husbandhim. My husband does the same thing the other
and I looked at each other's strengths andtwo days of the work week. It's great to be able
weaknesses in similar fashion to a SWOTto rely on each other to make sure that business
(strength, weakness, opportunity, threat) analysisgets done while still taking time out for what's
for business. From this exercise, we have decidedmost important.
that I should be the CEO and my husband act in aChoose your partner wisely.
CFO capacity. He has a strong financialMy husband and I were able to make these
background, while I'm more the outgoing person"rules" official for our family by writing them down
who likes to get deals done and execute on them.on paper and signing on it. We now hold each
We have defined our business roles andother accountable for our actions. Most of the
responsibilities as a result.time, actually, we make fun of each other and
The same goes at home. I take care of all theturn it into a fun process for us.